[EuiDataGrid] allow application to control fullscreen state

[chandlerprall]

[I thought we had a issue for this already but I couldn't find one]

Applications should be allowed to control the grid's fullscreen state. This can be used to tie in with routing systems (see #4393) and, similar to the column controls, allows an app to hide the toolbar and replace with some other UI. Similar to the other controls, this functionality should include a feedback loop to the application when the fullscreen state changes.

Siem is... working around this limitation
Originally posted by @stephmilovic in elastic/kibana#110723 (comment)