Change rmm::get_current_device_resource/set_current_device_resource to use rmm::device_async_resource_ref

[harrism]

This is blocked on design issues. We need to prototype a shared-ownership model for set_current_Device_resource() using upcoming shared_resource / any_resource from CCCL. These classes are only just becoming available in cudax.

Once that is working we can design and implement a Cython solution around it. Also, resource adaptors should use a shared_resource for their upstream resources.

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1. Add get_current_device_resource_ref/set_current_device_resource_ref that take and return device_async_resource_ref #1597
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2. Update adaptors, containers and tests to use get/set_current_device_resource() #1660
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3. Update RAPIDS repos to use resource_ref versions
4. Deprecate get_current_device_resource and related functions
5. Remove get_current_device_resource and related functions.