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Speaker 1:          00:01          There are women are very good in high school. Then they go to college. They're very good. In College, they had nailed her damn grades. They do their studying, they get their a's and they end the ace Al Sat, so they're smart too. Then they go off to do their articling and they're really, really good at it and then they get offered an associate position and they're really, really good at it and then by the time they're 30, they make partner and let's say they're in high pressure, high paying jobs, $250,000 a year. $300,000 a year. $500 an hour. Okay. What's your life like? You work all the time, period. Seventy hours a week, 75 hours a week, flat out, and you don't get to make any mistakes and if your client calls you at three in the morning on Monday, on Sunday you say, I'm really glad to hear you hear from you because if you don't, there's some hot law firm in New York that'll take your client from you at a moment's notice and the client is paying you whatever the firm, $750 an hour of which maybe you get 3:50 and what they want is an answer about something really complicated right?

Speaker 1:          01:02          Bloody now, and you can say all you want about the fact that women have a difficult time with that because it's a male dominant patriarchy. Any any female lawyer who's hit 30 and his partner that has any sense at all knows that complete bloody rubbish. It's market determined right to the core. What happens to the women when they're in their thirties? They all leave the high end law firms. Why? Because who in their right mind would want to live like that? That's the issue, right? Once you make about $60,000 a year for your family, but let's say for you personally, additional income makes zero has zero impact on your quality of life, zero, so why work 80 hours a week while men will do it? Some men, very few, a handful of hyper competitive men who are obsessed with hitting the pinnacle of the given dominance hierarchy there in will happily work 80 hours a week and they'll forgo everything else.

Speaker 1:          01:58          Relationships, family, children way in the second category, and so those men are often very difficult to live with too because they're so obsessed with their career. It's hard to have a relationship with them and maybe they don't have much of a relationship with their kids, but they're damn good at what they do and part of that is they're smart and disciplined and they'll work nonstop all the time. It's like an obsession and that's the sort of people who run things. Those are the people who run things while they're often also disagreeable to because you want to wrote a manage people. Really, they're not going to like you. You know when it's not an easy thing to not be liked, and actually if you're an agreeable person and women are more agreeable than men, it's quite painful to be disliked, but if you're in a managerial and executive position, the probability that people are going to like you is quite low.

Speaker 1:          02:45          Now, if you're a real son of a bitch, then they're going to dislike you more, but it's. It's those. Those positions are very stressful, partly because of the interpersonal dynamics and they're also incredibly, incredibly competitive, so the women hit that at and they're completely qualified in the law. Firms are bloody desperate to keep them because it's really hard to find highly qualified people, especially once you've put all that time into training them, especially if they're also good at bringing in business. The law firms trip over themselves to try to keep them. They can't. The women think, why in the world am I doing this? Why? When the world would anyone in their right mind do this? Especially because they're often married by that point too, and generally they've married a husband who makes as much money or more than them so they don't need the damn money, and so they think, well, there's more to life than this, which is exactly the right thing to think, and so they go and find a job that's nine to five and controllable so that they can hire a nanny and have some kids and have a life, and it's like, yes, that's the intelligent thing to do.

Speaker 1:          03:45          So we've got things backwards in our culture. We're thinking at least in part, why aren't there more women in positions of power? Wrong question. The right question is why are there any minute all who want those positions of power? Because it's not just positions of power. You have to be such a knothead to think that, oh, it's a position of power. It's like, sure, but it's a position of overwhelming responsibility and if you make mistakes, you're done. Right? It's not like you occupy that position of power and everyone does what they're told all the time in your life is easy. It's like, forget about that. People are on your case to do exactly the right thing all the time, 100 percent of the time and maybe you want that. Maybe you don't. So the what I don't know what people think is these people are all sitting in their offices with their feet up on the desk, smoking cigars and pressing the world.

Speaker 1:          04:34          It's like that isn't how it works. Those people, they work flat out all the time, so and it's fine if that's what you want and some people are like that. They're hyper industrious people, right? From a trade perspective, no matter where you put them, if you put them in a forest with an axe, they just wander around, chopping down trees nonstop, right? Because there it's built into them. But if you want to have a balanced life and you should want that, you know, because the other thing you'll find, this is God's Gospel. Truth is that the older you get, if you have any sense at all, the more important your family is to you like that. The, the utility of your career. Maybe that peaks around 35 or 40 and it starts to decline pretty rapidly after that, and what happens if you're fortunate, you have someone in your life that you love, that you've woven yourself together with and you have some kids so that you have something to do from the time you're 50 till the time you're 80, and so it's a real mistake.

Speaker 1:          05:29          It's a barren future without children, man, I can tell you that it's a real mistake and so we do a terrible job of say, putting that image forward and saying, well, yeah, now you know, because women have access to the birth control pill now and can compete in the same domains as men. Roughly speaking, there is a real practical problem here. It's partly an economic problem now because when I was roughly your age, it was still possible for a one income family do exist. While you know that wages have been flat except in the upper one percent since 1973. Why? Well, it's easy. What happens when you double the labor force? What happens? You have the value of labor, so now we're in a situation where it takes two people to make as much as one did before. So we went from a situation where women's career opportunities were relatively limited to where they were relatively unlimited and there were two incomes to wear and so women could work to a situation where women have to work and they only make half as much as they would have otherwise and now we're going to go into a situation.

Speaker 1:          06:35          This is the next step. Whereas women will work because men won't. And that's what's coming now. So we. There was an economics economist articles showing that 50 percent now of of boys in school or having trouble with their basic subjects and you look around you and universities, you can see this happening and I've watched it over decades. I would say 90 percent of the people in my personality class are now women. There won't be a damn man left and university in 10 years except in the stem fields and it's a complete bloody catastrophe and it's a catastrophe for women because I don't know where the hell you're going to find someone to, to have, uh, you know, to marry and have a family with. If this keeps happening. So. And you think when you're 19 because you're so clueless when you're 19, you don't know a bloody thing.

Speaker 1:          07:20          You think, well, I'm not really sure I want children anyway. So it's like, oh yeah, you can tell how well you've been educated. Jesus, dismal, dismal without fail. I got to tell you, without fail, I've watched women go through their professional careers. Many, many of them. It's a very rare woman who at the age of 30, he doesn't consider having a child. Her primary desire and the ones that don't consider that. Generally in my observation, there's something that isn't quite right in the way that they're constituted, are looking at the world. Sometimes you get women who are truly non maternal. You know, by temperament there. They have a masculine tempera disagreeable. They're not, they're not particularly compassionate, they're not maternal, they don't really. They're not that interested in kids. Fair enough, man, but there aren't that many of them and there's plenty who will not admit to themselves that that's what they most desperately want.

Speaker 2:          08:10          Do you think women would be better off or their favorite? Thirty.

Speaker 3:          08:17          Who knows? Like it's like it really is a problem now. It's a really tough one. I don't think anybody knows the answer to that because

Speaker 2:          08:26          35 new kids are saying 10:11. Then you can go and get a bachelor's and masters easy that way. Having the career first and then trying to raise young kids.

Speaker 3:          08:40          Yeah, I, I, I can't answer that because I've seen women do a good job of it both both ways and you do get the odd woman who manages a high powered career and kids, but Jesus, those women, man, like they, they, they buy more powerful microwaves because take 45 seconds to cook the food instead of a minute and I'm not kidding. It's like they're, they're up at five. They exercise for half an hour. They make breakfast, they get their kids ready to work, they go to work, they worked 14 hours a 14 hour days flat bloody out. They come home and work for another two hours to get their kids organized. They have a nanny to help them out and then they work for two more hours before they go to bed at like one and then they're up at five and they do that again and I'll tell you, you better be tough if you're going to do that physically too because you'll just burn yourself to a crisp.

Speaker 3:          09:24          I've seen some women manage it, you know, but they're like, they're tough and they're rare because that's a hell of a hell of a regimen. And then if anything goes wrong, you know, you have a sick kid or something like that, or there's any sort of crisis in your family. It's just, you know, it's, then it becomes too much. And I don't know the answer to that, you know, I mean, the advantage women have is they live about eight years longer than men because testosterone kills men. So Limited. Well that, that, that's right. They pay up front and gain on the, on the, on, in the long run, but how it isn't clear how our society should sort this out. We don't know. And it's partly we don't know what to do now that women have control over their reproductive function. It's a big mystery. Yep.

Speaker 2:          10:11          But I think later on competition and that's always a conference. People are always hiring talent because there's.

Speaker 3:          10:30          Yup. Yes. Well, and the thing is young, stupid people have the advantage of being young, middle aged, stupid people have the disadvantage of being middle aged. And so if you're going to hire a young stupid person or a middle aged stupid person, you'll go for the young, stupid person. And I'm stupid. I mean, you know, no, I'm being sarcastic obviously, but I mean without, without experience and just getting started in the world, you're much more likely to favor someone young because there's an instant explanation for their relative cluelessness and it's a problem, you know, so. So I don't know what the answer is, but one, one answer certainly is, at least in part, is to start letting young women know what being 30 and being female is like because and also to disabuse them of the notion that there's something magical about a career. First of all, most people don't have careers, man, they have jobs and the reason you get paid for a job is because you're being asked to do things you wouldn't do unless you were being paid. And so it's not. It's not some not some utopia of cigar smoking with your boots up on your desk, that's for sure. Not, not that that would be such a utopia to begin with.