chore(deps): xtask/ dependency updates, again

[abernix]

This is the result of running cargo update in the xtask/ directory (our
directory of tooling; not runtime components) to bring things more up to
date.

Follows-up: #3149

Some of the changes in #3152
seem to have undone some of the dependency updates, so this re-applies them.

[github-actions]

@abernix, please consider creating a changeset entry in /.changesets/. These instructions describe the process and tooling.

[router-perf]

CI performance tests

• const - Basic stress test that runs with a constant number of users
• no-graphos - Basic stress test, no GraphOS.
• step - Basic stress test that steps up the number of users over time
• reload - Reload test over a long period of time at a constant rate of users
• xlarge-request - Stress test with 10Mb request payload
• large-request - Stress test with a 1Mb request payload
• xxlarge-request - Stress test with 100Mb request payload