feat: update hapi to v20 (#3245)

Updates hapi ecosystem modules to v20

BREAKING CHANGES:

- Hapi has dropped support for node < 12

package.json

@@ -58,7 +58,7 @@
     "it-tar": "^1.2.2",
     "it-to-buffer": "^1.0.0",
     "it-to-stream": "^0.1.1",
-    "merge-options": "^2.0.0",
+    "merge-options": "^3.0.1",
     "multiaddr": "^8.0.0",
     "multiaddr-to-uri": "^6.0.0",
     "multibase": "^3.0.0",
@@ -75,7 +75,7 @@
     "cross-env": "^7.0.0",
     "go-ipfs": "^0.6.0",
     "interface-ipfs-core": "^0.139.1",
-    "ipfsd-ctl": "^6.0.0",
+    "ipfsd-ctl": "^7.0.0",
     "it-all": "^1.0.1",
     "it-concat": "^1.0.0",
     "it-pipe": "^1.1.0",