cli: make run and watch modes friends

[bmeck]

This is without tests until some conversation is had because it is a bit wonky. This makes --watch work with --run so you can do things like node --watch-path src --run start with the following package.json:

{
  "devDependencies": {
    "esbuild": "^0.21.5"
  },
  "scripts": {
    "start": "esbuild --platform=node --bundle src/main.mts --format=cjs --outfile=dist/main.cjs && node dist/main.cjs"
  }
}

Demo

Screen.Recording.2024-06-14.at.2.48.26.PM.mov

[nodejs-github-bot]

Review requested:

• @nodejs/loaders
• @nodejs/startup

[GeoffreyBooth]

@nodejs/tooling

[mcollina]

Why is it wonky?

[bmeck]

@mcollina

1. the task runner in C++ doesn't quite match the behavior of the shim I did to make it work with the JS based watch mode (perhaps this is fine since it is just around process management).
2. the CLI option --run is per_process based but the --watch CLI option is per env. So I had to do a weird pulling out of a env based value in a per_process check https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53457/files#diff-6c1386cbc6e4a11941649af31a0257d5c3e40b5f41223cdddf87ab2e984b705aR995
3. the design of --run (drops positional args) and --watch (uses positional args) have a slight conflict so I banned positional arguments and was seeing some weird results anyway if allowed:

% ../node/node --watch --run a test this a b
Running 'arr=("$@"); echo $# ${#arr} ${#@}'
0 0 0 test this a b