ddl, executor: executor change for pause/resume on ddl jobs (#43171)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #43171

Add Pause/Resume admin command in parser and planner

What problem does this PR solve?
Issue Number: close #18015 #40041

Related issue number: #39751 #43061

Related PR: #43081

Problem Summary: Add pause/resume on ddl jobs

What is changed and how it works?

Add admin pause ddl jobs 3,5;
a. the job should be in Running or Queueing state
b. change the state to be Pausing on command issued, in another PR
c. background work will pause the job once scheduled, in another PR

Add admin resume ddl jobs 3,5;
a. the job should be paused
b. change the state to be Queueing on command issued, in another PR
c. background worker will continue the job, no need to change

What is changed and how it works?

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
• No code

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

Release note

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[Benjamin2037]

LGTM

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/retest

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/retest

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[zimulala]

Done it in #43674